I asked her why she never talks to me when I ask her questions about her feelings, why she never tells me how she feels. She told me because she hated my responses.
I don't understand how one can keep hiding their feelings from their significant other. For me, it's practically no co-operation in trying to solve an issue between the two. But sometimes, that no co-operation comes from fear, hate or a bad experience from when she actually co-operated.
I understand I need to be more careful with how I express myself during an argument, yes. I am not perfect, never was never will be. But, something is bad. The non-sharing mentality is harming both of us.
I feel like she has lost her emotional trust in me. Like she's afraid of doing any mistakes. The problem in being afraid of doing any of these mistakes that; it hurts both of us. I believe, not sharing one's emotions is one of the worse issues of lack of trust.
Or maybe general trust isn't the issue. Maybe it's loss of emotional trust towards me, since there might be a fear of me doing an action that she wouldn't like. Yeah, we all get angry, but it's not like I'm not going to love her less / stop loving her.
Or it could be just lack of interest, lack of care about me as a person. I wouldn't like to think about this as a possibility, but due to the fact there is no answer given all I have left is to speculate and try to come up with reasons of why she's failing to share her opinion and emotions. Maybe it's because I'm not seen as a man for her if I hear her feelings and not try to guess them. Maybe she thinks she has no right to say her opinion in the relationship.
She hates when I try to guess but we'd be no-where if I wouldn't have guessed or try to analyze how she feels, keeping on lying that she's "okay" or thinking about "nothing". Although thinking about "nothing" and being "okay" is sometimes true, but a great explanation to why I keep asking regardless of the state is because it can become The Boy Who Cried Wolf; I can never be absolutely sure with such past experience.
I don't know what is the motives for this kind of behavior. I wish I could just talk to her about it, 100% openly, that she wouldn't fear, not trust or not care about me.
I really don't know the motives, she doesn't tell me, but we need to fix this.
